Social Media and Relationships
Whether you’re ‘single’, ‘in a relationship’ or have had to resort to the ‘it’s complicated’ option, have a read of these top tips- they will help you navigate your way around online whatever your love life looks like.
I’m riding solo.
Single and proud? Great! Often social media creates a warped reality in which we think everyone else is happier, more fulfilled, and more successful than we are. Not true.
Okay, some are, but not everyone.
It only takes a quick Google (or any other search engine), to see some really awkward screenshots of relationship issues being unearthed on social networks. When sharing life with another human being, privacy is surrendered, and just a few generations ago, rumour and gossip were limited to spreading a few miles. In the hyper-connected world we live in, break ups, affairs, cheating and family secrets are all exposed for the world to see, for our entertainment.
I’m single, but ready to mingle.
Online dating has exploded. Whether it’s match.com, e-harmony, or many of the other matchmaking sites out there, it’s never been more popular to find your perfect date online. It can save you time, be a better match to your personality, and less awkward if you’re not as confident meeting others when out and about.
But whilst these sites are great, do give some attention to your personal profiles too. If you’re happy to put yourself forward on a dating website, the chances are that potential partners will have a snoop around your online persona too.
It’s also worth mentioning the risks. We no longer live in a world of close-knit communities, so there are a lot of strangers out there, so stay safe. Don’t share personal information, money, or sensitive pictures. Always agree to meet in a public place and let a mate know where you are. Online dating should be fun; don’t become another horror story on national news.
The fact that you’re exclusive with your partner could bring its own online tensions. We’ve all seen the awkward disagreements and arguments that happen between couples online.
The key is to enjoy your time offline, and try to settle arguments before they arrive on Twitter in front of your hundreds of followers. If you do notice (or find yourself posting) the odd sarcastic comment to or from your other half, meet up or make a phone call. Entering into an online argument is unhelpful and could just lead to embarrassment when the screenshots are shared with friends.
Remember, as much as some couples present a ‘perfect’ image online, with cute ‘I love you’ comments everywhere and photos of posed kisses, every relationship has its cracks and no-one is perfect.